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The myth of being yourself--- the identity we create vs. the one we live

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The Myth of “Being Yourself”: The Identity We Create vs. the One We Live      “Just be yourself.” It’s one of the most comforting lies we’re told. Not because it’s cruel—but because it assumes there is a single, stable “self” waiting patiently inside us, fully formed, untouched by fear, survival, or expectation. As if identity is something you discover, not something you negotiate with every single day. But what if “being yourself” is not a destination? What if it’s a contradiction? The Self We Create From the moment we become aware of being watched, we begin to edit. Psychology tells us this is normal. The human brain is wired for belonging. We learn quickly which versions of us are rewarded and which are quietly rejected. Smiles earn approval. Silence avoids conflict. Confidence hides insecurity. Over time, these adjustments harden into personality. Carl Jung called this the persona —the mask we wear to function in society. Not a lie, exactly, but not the whole tr...

I Am the Poem No One Finishes Reading

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I Am the Poem No One Finishes Reading I am written in fragments. Lines begin, trail off, and the page folds under the weight of the last thing I could not say. People glance at my first stanza and smile politely, then put me down when the punctuation grows sharp. They praise my opening, toss aside my middle, and never stay for the ending that would have made them uncomfortable. I am a draft that never became final. A manuscript with missing chapters. A song with the last verse swallowed by a throat that learned to keep things in. And yet, all the way through, I keep existing — unruly, unedited, waiting for someone brave enough to finish me. The Pleasing Start I know how to begin well. I learned that early—how to make a good first impression, how to craft an opening line that makes people listen. A warm laugh here, the right anecdote there, a tidy vulnerability that doesn’t require effort to receive. They read the introduction and think they understand the writer. They close the book w...