The myth of being yourself--- the identity we create vs. the one we live

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The Myth of “Being Yourself”: The Identity We Create vs. the One We Live      “Just be yourself.” It’s one of the most comforting lies we’re told. Not because it’s cruel—but because it assumes there is a single, stable “self” waiting patiently inside us, fully formed, untouched by fear, survival, or expectation. As if identity is something you discover, not something you negotiate with every single day. But what if “being yourself” is not a destination? What if it’s a contradiction? The Self We Create From the moment we become aware of being watched, we begin to edit. Psychology tells us this is normal. The human brain is wired for belonging. We learn quickly which versions of us are rewarded and which are quietly rejected. Smiles earn approval. Silence avoids conflict. Confidence hides insecurity. Over time, these adjustments harden into personality. Carl Jung called this the persona —the mask we wear to function in society. Not a lie, exactly, but not the whole tr...

Poems I bleed in the dark

POEMS I BLEED IN THE DARK


NOT IN DAYLIGHT

 There are things I’ve never said out loud — not because I didn’t want to, but because I didn’t know how. Some feelings are too heavy for conversation and too sharp for silence. So I did the only thing I could: I wrote them down. Not in daylight, where everything is too loud and too real, but in the quietest hours of the night — when the world is asleep and I can finally hear myself think, even when I wish I couldn’t. These poems weren’t written for beauty or structure. They weren’t made to be read. They just... happened.

 Poured out of a mind that won’t stop spinning and a heart that’s forgotten how to feel without breaking. If you’re here, maybe you’ve bled quietly too. Maybe you’ve had nights where your thoughts kept you hostage. Maybe you’ve built a smile so well, no one noticed the cracks. These aren’t just poems. They’re pieces of the silence I’ve survived. Read them like secrets. Like confessions. Like echoes in a room no one enters but you.


EYES NEVER LIE


Eyes that never dared to lie,
hold a heart so pure, so shy,
it speaks in silence, breaks in grace,
bleeding truths it can’t replace.

a smile worn like borrowed light,
hides the wars it lost each night,
no blade, no bruise — just quiet scars,
etched in poems beneath the stars.

they never scream, they never show,
but in the dark, they start to glow,
ink becomes the blood I cry,
when I’m too tired to ask why.

these verses drip from wounds unseen,
not tragic — just caught in between,
where love once lived, and fear took mark,
where my soul bleeds ink in the dark.

Because some truths are too tender to survive in daylight. The eyes in my poem — they’ve seen storms, carried unspoken grief, but never learned how to scream. They belong to someone who’s mastered the art of silence.


NOT FOR THE WORLD


Not for the world. Not for validation. But because these emotions need somewhere to go. I bleed them onto paper when no one’s watching, when the night is heavy and honest. These are midnight confessions dressed as poetry — born not from light, but from the ache of surviving.When I can’t speak, I write. When I can’t cry, I rhyme. It’s not poetry, it’s survival.
Every line carries a weight I couldn't carry alone. Every stanza holds a confession I whispered only to the dark. Because in the dark, I don’t have to pretend. The mask falls. The words are real. Messy. Honest. Undone.

So if you’re reading this — know that you’re not just reading poetry. You’re holding pieces of pain that once had no name. You’re witnessing what it looks like when silence finally finds a voice.

This is not just art — it's emotional survival through poetry, a way of turning inner chaos into something tangible, something that can be held, read, and maybe even understood. In a world where vulnerability is often hidden behind filters and facades, this kind of writing becomes a rebellion — an act of self-preservation disguised as verse.

WRITTEN FROM PAIN


Poetry written from pain doesn’t seek applause; it seeks release. It speaks in metaphors because the truth is too sharp in plain language. For many, like me, writing becomes therapy — a quiet, unassuming form of healing where the pen becomes a scalpel, carving through wounds no one else can see.When silence wraps the night and the world fades to dreams, the words emerge — not to shine, but simply to be.

 For those searching for poetry that speaks to the unspoken, that echoes the ache they’ve buried, know this: you are not alone. Your silence has a voice here. Your darkness has a place to breathe. And every time you return to these lines, may you find not just words, but understanding — a reminder that even the heaviest emotions can find light on a page.

So let these verses be your mirror — not polished, but honest. Let them hold your grief without questioning it, your fears without fixing them. This space isn’t for perfection. It’s for presence. For every unspoken truth you've buried beneath smiles. For the loneliness that lingers even in crowded rooms. Here, you don’t have to be STRONG. You don’t have to make sense. You just have to feel. Because healing doesn’t always roar — sometimes, it whispers through broken lines and trembling ink. And if these words meet you in your quietest hour, know this: survival is an art too. And you're creating it with every breath, every scar, every poem you bleed into the dark.


The girl who don't want to shine
She smiles with lips that never heal,

Hides her cracks beneath the steel.
A thousand storms behind her eyes,
But no one stays to hear the cries.

She walks like she’s not made of glass,
But every breath is breaking fast.
They call her strong — they never see
The war she fights just to be "me."

She isn’t broken because she’s weak — she’s broken because she’s carried too much alone. Every scar she hides is a story she was never allowed to tell. People admire her strength, but they don’t realize it was never a choice — it was survival. Behind her silence is a scream she’s buried for years, and behind her smile is a thousand unshed tears. She’s not looking to be saved; she just wants to be seen — not as someone damaged, but as someone who still stands despite everything. Her strength isn’t loud. It’s in the quiet way she keeps going, even when her soul feels tired of trying.



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