The myth of being yourself--- the identity we create vs. the one we live

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The Myth of “Being Yourself”: The Identity We Create vs. the One We Live      “Just be yourself.” It’s one of the most comforting lies we’re told. Not because it’s cruel—but because it assumes there is a single, stable “self” waiting patiently inside us, fully formed, untouched by fear, survival, or expectation. As if identity is something you discover, not something you negotiate with every single day. But what if “being yourself” is not a destination? What if it’s a contradiction? The Self We Create From the moment we become aware of being watched, we begin to edit. Psychology tells us this is normal. The human brain is wired for belonging. We learn quickly which versions of us are rewarded and which are quietly rejected. Smiles earn approval. Silence avoids conflict. Confidence hides insecurity. Over time, these adjustments harden into personality. Carl Jung called this the persona —the mask we wear to function in society. Not a lie, exactly, but not the whole tr...

THE OTHER SIDE OF SMILE

“The Other Side of Her Smile” 

''Other side of smile''


The world has always known a heart
brimming with joy,
A graceful smile,
A soul shimmering with quiet positivity.

But the world has not seen the shift—

From a heart once overflowing to one left shattered,                                             From a smile once radiant to lips turned downward,                                            From a spirit once luminous to a soul weighed in silence.



''Tear you apart''


''Some words are simple to speak,

yet unbearably heavy to hear.

Some words can tear you apart,

while others force you to learn

that acceptance is never easy—

but still, perhaps, a kinder choice

than clinging to drowning in guilt."


''Easy to accept''


Everyone has their own point of view,

and we cannot force anyone to see the world as we do.

They see what they want,

what is easy to accept,

what doesn’t challenge their comfort.


They don’t see the silent collapses,

the nights spent counting every scar,

the words that echo long after they are spoken,

the weight that drags behind the smiles.


Some truths are too heavy to share,

some pain too complicated to explain.

And yet, the world judges,

labels, misunderstands —

because it is easier to categorize than to feel.


The heart doesn’t always match the face.

The soul doesn’t always stay intact.

Joy is fragile.

Smiles are rehearsed.

Positivity is a mask worn for survival.


Some words break you before you even know it.

Some moments shift everything in an instant,

leaving nothing behind but quiet ruins.


There is no lightness here,

only the raw aftermath of living,

of being seen incompletely,

of feeling fully,

and knowing the world might never understand.

And still, you speak to the quiet witness —

not for advice, not for comfort,

but because someone must hear the truth of you,

someone who cannot judge or turn away.


The world has no patience for the cracks.

It sees a broken smile

and asks why you can’t just be whole again.

It hears your words

and twists them, flattens them,

until they are nothing but echoes of what they were meant to mean.

    

''storms inside your chest''


You carry storms inside your chest

that no one else can feel.

You carry anger, despair, longing,

all coiled together 

like a river that refuses to run in the channels they’ve made.

And still, you whisper —

to the silent witness, to the moon,

to the Lord who may be listening somewhere,

that some things are too heavy to bear alone,

that some truths refuse to be softened.

You don’t ask for rescue.

You don’t ask for forgiveness.

You only demand acknowledgment —

that this, all of this,

is real.

And perhaps that is enough:

that someone, somewhere,

knows that joy can shatter,

that smiles can hide collapse,

that positivity is often just survival in disguise.


The world sees pieces of you, the bright, easy pieces, the polished fragments you can afford to show. But it never sees the collapse behind the eyes, the quiet unraveling, the way joy can vanish in a single heartbeat and leave emptiness in its place. Smiles can be weapons, defenses, illusions. Positivity is a performance, a mask stitched carefully to keep the world at bay while your soul trembles beneath it all. Words can pierce deeper than knives. Some land like casual comments, some like deliberate blows, and all of them leave invisible bruises that no one else notices. And still, you carry it, dragging it through days and nights, knowing that no one will ever truly witness the depth of what you hold.


You speak to the silent witness, to the moon, to the Lord who may be listening somewhere, because you have no other choice. There is no mercy in this act, no softening, no hope that it will make anything better. It is the only way to release the weight just enough to breathe, just enough to survive, even though survival itself feels like walking through fire with bare feet. The world does not see the storm inside you. It does not see the nights you spend tracing every scar, every fracture, every broken thought. And when it does glance your way, it misunderstands, misjudges, simplifies, categorizes you as something neat, something digestible, something it can hold without fear.


There is no healing here. There is no comfort. There is only the raw, unrelenting reality of existing in a body and mind that refuses to lie down, refuses to be simplified. Each day, you shuffle the shards of yourself, some jagged, some bleeding, some hollowed out completely, knowing the world will never touch them. And yet, you continue. Not because you are strong, not because you are brave, but because you have no other choice. You demand acknowledgment, not kindness, not understanding, only the recognition that this pain, this fracture, this relentless rawness is real.


The quiet witness, the moon, the unseen presence above — it does not offer answers, it does not soothe. It only observes. And perhaps that is enough. Perhaps simply being seen, in fragments, in brokenness, in the unfiltered chaos of living, is the only truth you can hold onto. And if it offers nothing else, let it at least know the weight you carry, the parts of yourself you hide, the nights that stretch endlessly in quiet devastation. Let it witness it all, because for once, there is no one else.

“And still, you exist, fractured, unguarded, and entirely seen by no one but the quiet witness.”



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